The answer to that is no. I have no desire whatsoever to experience any of it. Does it matter to me if my future children looked like me? No, not really. The only thing I’d be interested in seeing in biologically related children would be how they inherit different habits or personalities from each parent but even that is something adopted or fostered children can learn from their guardians.
Do I still want to adopt? Yes. If the Lord wills it, I’d like to adopt two boys. My best friend last night said, “Who knows. Maybe one day you’ll be so madly in love with your husband, you just couldn’t help but have your own kids.” It almost sounded like it was a bad thing to not want to have my own. “It’s just so hard to adopt”, she had said. The challenge of adopting makes it sound like it’s just not reasonable to try. Why try?
I’ve seen first hand how challenging it is. I’ve seen the pain of discipline, the regulations, the money, and the loss when it doesn’t work out. Many tears have been shed for families where it didn’t work out the way we thought it would, but I don’t think it’s a reason to give up.